1. First, put yourself in the opposite position: If You didn't want to be with someone, and let him or her know it, what would you expect the other person to do? Hopefully let go, and move on with dignity.
2. The biggest "cure all" every time you miss them, or are reasoning about them with sadness, is to Vividly remember the times they treated you like Dirt, and ask yourself: "Is That what I of course Want?" When the reply is No - then keep that in your mind. It will replace the old pattern of putting them on a pedestal when they treated you far less than the way you deserved. It will also help you to replace the pain with the truth of the situation.
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3. Every time thoughts about them suddenly come into your mind, do the above, And re-direct your focus on to something that is determined and life improving for You, or others that you love. You have the power to consciously re-direct your thoughts and Focus. Do that every time the blues start to creep in to your consciousness.
4. of course Trust that everything Does work out for the best in the long run, and if you can remember a time when you were sad about something, only to be grateful for the increase you've made, and how the situation worked out for your top and best after all, this will help you perceive that this situation is no different.
5. View the other person with compassion, rather than with bitterness. perceive that they did the best they were capable of, and if their best was not in your best interest, then it is a gift that they are out of your life!
6. Get deeply and passionately absorbed in your life purpose! This is the most distinguished thing you can do! Why waste your energy, focus, and attention on a Past situation, when you can of course be production significant and determined disagreement in your life, as well as in the lives of others!
7. Every time you start to think about them, and begin to play your drama of the past in your mind, consciously choose to focus on the Now, and all of the great things you can be doing. Focus on being and expressing your top and best self. Remember that you don't Need them at all. You are the gift. They may be a gift as well, however, if they are out of your life, your life Must carry on in the most vibrant, determined and life-renewing manner possible. This is All within your conscious option and control.
8. of course thank them (in your mind) for every lesson you have learned, every new discovery you have made, and the disagreement they Did make in your life. perceive that That was their purpose for entering your life. So now you can publish them with a lot of gratitude, loving compassion, dignity, and grace.
9. person that I personally know that is going straight through the throws of emotional agony in trying to let go of a relationship that just ended said: "We need to know Why We Should Let Them Go To Begin With!"
The reply is so that You can be Free From Pain, and misery! So that you can attract person into your life that will treat you incredibly well, and because you Deserve to be happy in a real relationship!
Why should you hold out for crumbs from person similar to a dog waiting on the doormat for a merge of crumbs of attention? Don't you of course deserve to have a wonderful relationship? Yes! You do! everybody does. If you are in pain the majority of the time, then you deserve to free yourself, so that you can live with inner peace, and grow with sufficient self-love to attract your true counterpart.
You can only attract according to what you believe you deserve, and I swear to you that you Will attract person that is far healthier for you once you of course learn how to love and appreciate yourself.
Don't you want to be treated in the best manner possible? So if you are in pain most of the time, that pain is saying: "Hey, get me out of this, because It Hurts!" And the only way to remove yourself from the source of emotional agony in your life is to make a complete break.
It's like holding your hand halfway in boiling water! If you take your hand out completely, and heal it, then you will be free from pain!
If you choose to keep dipping your fingers into boiling water, this is the same as continuing to return to a painful relationship. One is corporal pain, and the other is emotional.
There is no judgment at all. So please do Not judge yourself for allowing yourself to be treated far less than you deserve. The only thing that matters is what you do from This occasion forward. Love yourself - a Lot!
10. The only one you will Ever need is You. The only one that will Never leave you is You. So place All of your energy on being and expressing all you came into this life for. It is Not about them - it is all about you and your growth. That is the most prominent thing. Now you have learned more, and realized more. You have evolved more as a supervene of all you have been through. As you come to fully awaken to all of your grand possibilities, you of course won't have the time, or the care to focus your attention on a past situation. It is like focusing on anyone else that is in the past. Now is your time to re-claim yourself, and shine as the beacon that you are. You will feel so much best once you take all of the above steps - as long as you of course apply them.
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